Comments on: Not the Mamma/ You Can’t Always Get What You Want

By: Klara

Klara — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 05:46:50 +0000

dear Tracey,
the song “You can’t always get what you want” is also one of my favourite songs of the last decade. So true. It is just the fact of life.

I love love your quote:
“Now I am free. I am free to do what I want and to spend my time and money the way I want. Now I get to spend my life doing what I want to do. ”

I feel the same way!

WIshing you all the best!

By: stinkb0mb

stinkb0mb — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 00:13:26 +0000

i just post the below comment on life without baby and i’ll repost it here:

“i must admit, the number of days that i think, hey perhaps i don’t want children, perhaps they AREN’T for me, perhaps, what we have right now actually IS right for us have vastly begun to outnumber the days i yearn for children.

and i love that quote – “More tears are shed over answered prayers than unanswered ones.” so, so, SO, true!”

i *love* this post and sometimes not getting what you want is actually just what you need.

By: loribeth

loribeth — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:55:53 +0000

Here from Life Without Baby — I did read this awhile back & thought I had commented, but guess not. Just wanted to say amen, I agree with you & everyone who’s commented. Also wanted to say “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” has been one of my personal theme songs the past decade ; ) — and also that I LOVE the fact you found that clip from “Dinosaurs!” Dh & I used to watch that show & “NOT the Mamma!” has stuck with me through the years too.

By: mccxxiii

mccxxiii — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:00:34 +0000

Late to the party commenting …

I’m so happy for you, and pleased to read this, and also so jealous. Unfortunately, these days I more often find myself in your “Williams Sonoma Holiday situation” than in the state described in this post.

But I am trying … trying to be patient, trying to trust that it will come, trying to pray for it and believe. That’s all I can do.

P.S. It’s always the hospital pictures that set me off — husband leaning into mom and baby nestled in the adjustable bed, baby wrapped in that same universal hospital receiving blanket that’s white with the pink and blue stripes on the edge. That’s the ultimate portrait of Future Life Potential — captured in the moment before any of the chaos really starts — and I will never be in it.

By: Transformations « Life Without Baby

Transformations « Life Without Baby — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 14:01:06 +0000

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By: Life Without Baby

Life Without Baby — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 02:21:32 +0000

Wow. This is so beautiful and it completely resonated with me. It’s impossible to imagine when you’re dealing with the awfulness of infertility, and that uncontrollable longing (for me, it was the image of looking down at my baby sleeping on my chest) that you could one day have a life where you appreciate not having children. But it happens. To lots of people. Yaay you for working your way through to this point.

By: Marcela

Marcela — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 12:16:55 +0000

I am very, very happy for you, Tracey.
Whenever I don’t get something I REALLY want after several tries, I know it is time to reflect on why it is not happening, to take a close look at my true desires and to trust. I believe there’s magic in how some things unfold in our lives…If I had gotten a scholarship to study in the UK or in the US, as I wanted, I wouldn’t have moved to Ivory Coast, I wouldn’t have met my husband, I wouldn’t have my children. I would perhaps have a successful career, but to be completely honest, I don’t think I would have been as happy as I am now.

By: Vix

Vix — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 01:34:41 +0000

You sound free from so much of the pain you experienced, and that’s great news. Wishing you continued happiness and explorations!

[Now just don't chain yourself to a fixer-upper, and you'll be in good shape.]

ps Belated congrats on the 10K

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:35:00 +0000

That all sounds wonderful and I’m a bit jealous! I’m 36 and my husband and I have recently given up on TTC. I’m thankful now that I don’t have a child to deal with, since I really enjoy sleeping and having my time to myself when I want it. As far as the man goes, I feel the need sometimes to be COMPLETELY free, but at the same time don’t want to leave what I have. Like Michelle said, it could go both ways….I guess I’m not ready to jump off into the land of “New” yet…but I’m very glad to hear that it does get better

By: Randal Graves

Randal Graves — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:10:03 +0000

You better not start rooting for the Lakers.