Pacifica Graduate School in Santa Barbara. While I am there I am going to see my wise-old-man-crush, James Hillman. Hillman, whose intellect I am seriously hot for, is leading a seminar, “Old and Young” in which he will explore the archetypes of the Puer Aeternus and the Senex. I am as giddy as a school girl and more than a little farklempt at the idea of a weekend with the Hillman.
I thought in my current state of frenzy that it would be best to make a list so I don’t forget anything.
1. Hope, enthusiasm and excitement. I am going to need a big bag. I have a lot of these.
2. Safari Banana Republic Dress in black and khaki. I am taking an assortment of leggings, belts, tanks and boots. I figure that with enough accessories I will be able to confuse fellow attendees into thinking I am not wearing the same dress in different colours.
3. Shawls. In order to attend a California psychological conference one must have a shawl. Anyone can fake a license with a scanner and some basic counter-fitting skills but only a therapist knows how to work a shawl. You think I’m kidding? I will take a shawl count when I’m there. I’ll give you the shawl stats when I return.
4. Business cards. I take them just in case I decide to get in networking mode. I keep my business cards in a Louis Vuitton business card case. Something about that makes me laugh. I realize it is a subtle joke. But I just find it funny for a therapist to have a Louis Vuitton card case.
5. Black Tory Burch Patent Leather Thongs. I am taking these because they show off my pedicured piggies that are painted in Particle.
6. Flat Iron. Blow dryer. Hair serums. I need lots of products or my hair goes Rosanne-Rosanna-Danna when I am in Santa Barbara.
7. Pictures of Lily. I cannot be five days without seeing that oodgey-woodgy-cutie-wootie face. If I didn’t have the pictures I might have to call her and leave messages on the machine:”What’s my good girl doing? Is she a good girl? Does she miss her mommy? Her mommy misses her.” Yes. I am that person.
8. The products I got with my Neiman Marcus rewards cards: Laura Mercier Brightening Powder and Bobbi Brown Shimmer Brick in Apricot. I can thank the gorgeous Wildernesschic for inspiring these purchases.
9. Too many cosmetics. I am not good at packing cosmetics. I bring everything, full-sized.
10. Pillows. The hotel I am staying at has the most evil pillows ever. These pillows are so bad that I feel sure that the hotel is part of some sadistic psychological study that is determining how much suffering people will endure before complaining.
11. My squirrel pajamas which are a small symbolic nod to Hillman’s acorn theory.
12. Camera. I’m taking it so I can take lots of pictures of Santa Barbara. That way I will have some material for blog posts when I get back. If I don’t have the pictures I fear all my blog posts next week will be about me gushing over how fabulous it was to sit in Hillman’s presence.
13. Fear and anxiety. Even if I forget them I am sure I will find some waiting for me when I arrive.
14. Journals and notebooks. I’ll need them to write down every brilliant thing Hilly says. I will also need to write down all the silly things that people say in an attempt to impress my unimpressible BF. I’ll need the notebooks to write lists of ideas for the book, for the blog and I will write character studies and things I want to tell Igor and all the things I want to tell you when I come back.
15. My Mac. I probably won’t use it. I won’t have time. But what if I get inspired? What if there is an earthquake and I can’t get back to L.A. for a week? What if our condo catches on fire and He-weasel only had time to get Lily and our wedding photos out? What if?
16. PhD fantasies. Whenever I go back to my grad school I take these with me.
17. Luna Bars and Smartwater. I am taking these as a defense against the siren call of the soda and M&M;’s that will undoubtedly beg me to release them from their cruel and inhumane captivity in the hotel vending machine.
18. A long black sweater. It gets cold in Santa Barbara. This sweater will make me feel both academic and warm.
19. Instant oatmeal that I can make in my room with hot water from the coffee machine. I assure you I will not be making coffee in that machine. Yuck!
20. Starbucks giftcards that I got at Christmas. I hate Starbucks but I don’t know where the Peet’s is in S.B.
21. Drugs: Thyroid meds; Ambien; Advil;Tylenol; Ativan; Immodium. I know, I am just going to Santa Barbara. But I like to be prepared for any physical malady.
22. Clothes to walk on the beach in. I likely won’t have time but in case I do I like to have the necessary ensemble.
23. My father complex. It is usually with me. It is with me even more when I find myself around genious men.
24. Altoid Mints, Listerine Breath Strips and gum. I find that whoever does the catering for these events likes to use garlic and onions. So after lunch I like to be prepared with enough breath freshening goodies to share with those who sit around me.
25. My copies of The Soul’s Code and We’ve had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse just in case I get the nerve to ask Hilly to sign them for me.
O, have a great time!
You have made me curious about this man and I promise I will follow your links to educate myself a bit about him. He would bring out the father complex in me too, which is a complex that gets weirder all the time as I become the same age as and older than the objects of my inner child's lifelong search.
Love the little Banana Republic Dress and your ideas to change it around. That's brilliant. And I do hope you count the shawls…I am absolutely fascinated by this observation and wonder what gives!
Will click on the links to read in the daytime after some sleep; it's after 2:00am…zzzzzzzz
Lady Belette Love,
You shall have an amazing
and perhaps diarrhea prompting
exciting time!!!
and.
take your mac!
my friend left the house one
day to return to it completely
robbed of all things electronic
except!!!
except before she left that
day she had, for no earthly
and explainable reason, shoved
her laptop WITH HER ENTIRE
PHD DISSERTATION ON IT
under the couch!!!!
TAKE THE MAC!!!
XuXu
http://www.frenchshelter.blogspot.com
where you, too, can get the
recipe for sweet-from-the-body
sperm should I be able to
cobble together 50 followers.
(only 27 to go!)
Belette, I hope you have a wonderful time, great list. A lady can never pack too much, she has to be prepared for all eventualities.
I also think you should take some sneaky photographs of the shawl brigade, perhaps you could do a blog post about them and we could give marks out of ten.
XX
He will be flattered and thrilled and won't just give you his autograph, but ask you out to lunch as well.
Have fun! Work that shawl! You will look fabulous and be fabulous.
Love and hugs to you! Your darling baby will be fine with her daddy. A little separation is a good thing, now and then.
I've yet to come across a hotel pillow that measures up – so yes.
Shawls ? Really ?
Detailed report on that please.
Enjoy your trip Belette !
xxx
Oh Belette, there are few things I enjoy reading more on blogs (and in magazines) than people's packing lists when they are going out of town! I don't know why, but I just love packing lists, complete with little explanations after each item and links to the item. Thanks for yours! I hope you have a nice time in SanBar at the conference.
If something arises for which you are not prepared I shall be very surprised. Have fun, looking forward to hearing the shawl stats (that includes the men too, right?).
Sounds wonderful shame I can't come along to be the shawl counter. That description is hilarious and I know it is so true. Do you think they are comfort blankets or intellectual appendages!
I agree with Angie. He'd want to take you out for lunch and dinner!
Outfit list and cosmetic list big ticks. Well done, best to be prepared especially when you are so v excited and might have to have lunch/dinner with James Hillman.
points 4 & 15 are good and I'm with you on 16 – I sort of wish I'd applied for a Phd for starting in September but for some reason feel I should have some time off for academic studies. Not sure this was right decision.
Most of all have a GREAT time xxxxx
I hope you have a large suitcase for all these things! Have a wonderful time and enjoy yourself…..xv
Have a fabulous time! I can't believe you're a therapist for real now, it's so exciting.
I may have to send you a shawl. Also, get him to sign your book, you'll regret it if you don't.
What a good scout you'd make, so prepared! Sounds like you have everything you need, so have a great trip!
Oh yes Belette I too want to see sneaky photos and a post of the shawl wearing brigade!!!! So glad you will take your father complex with you… I guess it wouldn't feel like home without it and I always take my own pillow too.. even to Europe for 2 months… twice!!!
Ok.. have a great time… looking forward to the after post!! xx Julie
'My father complex'…you got me on that one. Mine's wearing me out right now and sometimes I wonder if I'll ever…ok enough about me.
I found you through Wildernesschic, my greatest fan and blogging friend.And I love your blog, about to hit the follow button any minute now.
Have a great time.
Helena xx
I don't often feel envious but knowing you'll be spending a week listening to James Hillman while I'll be forced to listen to tea bagger sympathizers at work makes me so. Meanwhile I'll just have to enjoy the cherry blossoms, azaleas and lilacs on my walks to and fro. I hope you have a wonderful time and will look forward to your impressions.
This is brilliant! so much more fun than the usual "This is how to pack for a trip" posts. You will have a great time and your fellow students/colleagues will all want to sit next to you and talk to you and see if they can find out where you shop 'cause you accessorize so well and work your shawl in ways they never thought of but which make sense the moment they see you casually twist yours into action . . .
I hope you show us graphs and pie charts when the shawl stats roll in.
#2. Great choice. Love the dress shirt, i think they're super flexible.
#3. I'm known in the office for having the biggest collection of shawls, but shame to admit not knowing this fact.
#11. WendyB, where are you? This lady needs your squirrel and acorn necklace to wear with her squirrel and acorn theory PJs!!!
#24. YES!
This sounds out of this world to me, why? I need to escape perhaps? I love your list, so prepared and as usual I am entirely impressed with everything you say and do! Were I not in the busiest times of my semester I would follow you…I cannot think of anything you may have missed…perhaps a tape recorder or your iphone recorder in case you decided to tape some of the talk…
Enjoy enjoy….look forward to the aftermath report!
xoxoxo
Another who will be waiting for a full report, preferably with visuals/graphs, on the Shawl Situation.
Enjoy SB!
I think you've got it covered…great list of essentials…shawls or pashminas are a super thing to pack…great for drafts and air conditioning and planes. Good tip about the instant oatmeal.
Have a fabulous time!
Ollie is dressed up and packing to go… : ) You will need to open his tuna cans for him!
xoxo
So fun! Yet another thing you can enjoy about CA is your proximity to Santa Barbara. My parents used to live there (when I was at university) and it's one fab place. Almost unreal fab. And the weather is crazy – as you know – changing 5 times a day. So you'll need that scarf for all kinds of reasons. Have a terrific time!
Have a wonderful time. My mom lives there. I was just down for Easter. One word of caution – beach tar. OK two. There are special dissolving cleaning products you can use to get if off your feet, and it's easier to get off feet than off shoes…
Have so much fun there.
Please let us know about the scarf count.
And of course, the experience.
xoxo
Forget photos of Santa Barbara; I want pics of Hillman.
Excitement!!!
And your comment about shawls and psychologists cracked me up.
Sounds like it'll be a wonderful week! I've been wanting to go down there to see the art museum.
Can't wait to read your follow up posts!
A suggestion: rent a camcorder so the rest of us who cannot attend can get the whole gig. Either that, you you better promise to take really good notes.
I'm a firm believer in traveling with pillows and cosmetics for every possible need. Have a great time!
It's so good to know I'm not the only one packing at this level for in-state travel when I'm on the road! The black sweater made me smile, as did the Lily Pix.
You are going to one of my favorite parts of the country, I hope you have a *wonderful* trip!
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This is a very comprehensive list! It sounds as though you're *really* looking forward to this conference. That pic of Lily is TOO CUTE.
See you tomorrow!
I hope you have a wonderful time, I love the Tory Burch sandal, I am a huge fan of hers.. and i love the Safari dress … I want one in Khaki !!
I am sure you will rock the look xx
Ps I love your little doggy xx
Oh belette I love how your list varies between the clothes you're taking to your 'father complex'
Oh, and I replied to your question on my blog: 'it embarrasses me to admit that all my rich cousins talk exactly like this… and they shop on King's Road'
I forgot to write: have fun!!!!
I totally believe you about the shawls. But I am glad you are going with TB shoes instead of Birkenstocks!
Um, HELLO?!?
Are you saying you don't have room in that big ol' LV bag for me…?
Well, have a great time anyway…
XO
A.
i am looking forward to the shawl count.
Never mind intellectual crush – Mr. Hillman is totally hot – I have always liked "older men" although I realize that now that I am 44, that "older men" description is creeping closer and closer to centenerians..yikes….and you could live on this trip without any of the items on your list EXCEPT the patent flip/flops-sandals – patent is so great for the summer – the bare skin of our toes and patent leather – I expect Mr. Hillman would totally approve..HAVE FUN! OXO
Thyroid meds – I never leave home without them!
Please do give us the shawl count, along with shawl wearing tips. While I am a navy & black law firm lawyer (at least my outsides – my insides write noir and like great leather bags and hiking shoes) I LOVE shawls -
and have no idea what to do with them. Also am more than a little afraid of wearing them 1) lest I wear them wrong and 2) because of my pre-existing fear of wearing something so notable that people look at me (must stop blending into drywall and live a little!!).
Earlier this week, as a part of my slow and ongoing "coming out as authentic me" campaign I ordered two beautiful Indian shawls from Novica. Cannot wait to receive them and add them to my other 2 shawls – all of which I will be initially terrified to wear. But they can be so lovely…….
Your conference sounds fab, and you will look fab – have a blast and then come home to kiss Lily on the nose.
Work that shawl, girlfriend!
I always pack all my make-up too. I'm not a light packer.
Hope you're enjoying Santa Barbara, lovely Belette. xx
Belle, you are a girl after my own heart! you are such a nerd in the coolest way. i too get incredibly exited over 'intellectual things.' stuff that stimulates my mind gets me going. and to be in the presence of an adored smarty, even better. i too ask myself… oooo, what will i wear?
do have fun! hope you have time for a walk on the beach, this sounds good. and thanks a bunch for a peek into your preparations, i just love it!!
let us know how it goes…
Holey moley. Miss J is going to FL in May. This reminds her she need to start packing. Have a lovely trip!
Have a fantastic time. SB is a fantastic place! I soooo envy you. Ciao. A.
Well, I love the list, but I also like the idea of squirrel pajamas. Hope you are having a fabulous time. And my husband likes to travel with his own pillow, to.
Hope you are enjoying the conference (and no doubt looking fab. too…) Cannot wait to hear about the shawl count – you do make me smile! x
Now that's prepared !!! Love those thongs. Hope you have a fantastic time and we shall look forward to hearing all about it.
Well I think your list has all of life's essentials! Have a great time and oh how I love those Tory Burch sandals!
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But you all knew that!!!
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Make me feel so wonderful . . . .
Pictures of Lily
Make me feel so gooooooooooooodddddd"