1. I am mad at Igor, my psychoanalyst. It is the first time in our six-month relationship that I am mad at him. I feel like he totally missed the mark yesterday. I had two big dreams and he completely misinterpreted them. On Monday I dreamt that my parents were getting a divorce and my mother was going to Alcoholics Anonymous. My father was moving in with three Asian women.
Both in the dream and when I woke I was very happy. See, this is something I wanted to happen during almost all 18 years I lived at home. I knew that this dream was HUGE and I couldn’t wait to see Igor to talk to him about it. Well, I saw Igor yesterday and he didn’t get it. I told him I had never before dreamed of my parents divorcing or my mother admitting her addiction and how I was pretty sure this was huge psychological achievement. What did Igor say? “How does this relate to He-weasel?” My internal question was “how does my middle finger relate to you, Igor?”. Why does his interpretation make me so angry? Let me tell you why, it is because last week I shared a dream with him about He-weasel and I moving to a tiny overstuffed cottage in Portland overfilled with stuff and Igor’s interpretation was “This isn’t about He-weasel, this is about your parents.” Reverse psychology much?
There’s more: After he misinterpreted the parental divorce dream I made the foolish mistake of sharing with him my second big dream of the week. In dream #2 I was making out with President Obama. Through kissing him I knew that I was his real partner and that Michelle was just for show. I was all ready for Igor to turn this into a dream about He-weasel or my parents but alas it was his interpretation that this dream was about him. Are you kidding me? After two bad interpretations I turned off and sat there mad and feeling as if I had just wasted $200.
2. Neiman Marcus is having an “earn four In-circle points for every dollar spent” event( today is the last day) and I am in the mood to earn lots of points so I stocked up on some of my favorite cosmetics:
Bobbi Brown Luminous Moisturizer Foundation in Porcelain
Bobbi Brown Metalic lipstick in Ruby
Bobbi Brown Ruby Sugar Lip Gloss
Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer
Kiehl’s Avocado Eye Cream
Kiehl’s Micro-dermabrasion
Fresh Fig Apricot Bath & Shower Gel
I think that means I got about 800 In-circle points for a $200 order. Woo-hoo!!!
3. My Hair-Angel has transformed me from a red weasel into a strawberry blond weasel. I had no plans to go blond and yet her I am. I love it, but I am a bit in shock. Comment faites-vous pour dire “strawberry blond weasel”?
4. Hair-angel introduced me to Rockstar Zero Carb energy drink. OMG!!! Why didn’t anyone tell me that motivation, energy and appetite suppression is for sale? I know this is not the healthiest of beverages, a 24oz can has 360mg caffeine, but there are times when I will turn to this magical elixir when I am free of the aforementioned attributes.
5. I went to Designer Shoe Warehouse yesterday. Why? I am not sure. I have never-ever-ever found a pair of shoes at DSW and I have tried. I have gone to DSW in L.A., S.F., Austin and Chicago. After an hour of browsing I couldn’t find even one shoe to sort of like. I will never go in that store again, I have wasted enough of my life at DSW looking at shoes that I don’t like. Why do I have the feeling you have been very lucky at DSW and found Manolo Blahnik’s for $29.95?
1. I am very sorry that Igor misinterpreted your dreams – maybe he did this on purpose to make you realise that although he is good, he is fallible.
2. Not sure what they are – but congratulations.
3. I look forward to meeting you as a strawberry blonde (which is still a reddish weasel).
4. I think I’d expire if I had that much caffeine – I once drank 2 cups coffee in 2 hours and had heart palpitations and thought I was going to die!
5. So many designer sell off places are just full of junk!
I know how disappointing it is when a therapist does that. I can remember sitting, arms crossed and glaring at mine one day because he had made me so angry. I think I never went back. I did eventually many years later and we had a good laugh. He said he liked to think he had grown up more during that absence.
Do let us know how you like your new purchases. I too just stocked up on some Bobby Brown and I really like it. I bought a foundation, eye shadow in Black Plum, and my favorite is a cream shadow that is not metallic and does not crease, in slate. I really love it.
I do wish we could see a picture of your hair;-), before and after that is.
I have bought a few pair of shoes at DSW but none that were that great.
I would have a serious fit if I had to pay a person that much money for something,and what he gave you is the best he could come up with.
I’m not very sensitive to caffeine,so I’d love to find out what the Rockstar would do to me.I mean,I can drink a huge jug of coffee right before bed,and all that would keep me up that night is constantly having to pee.
Fraise-Blonde Belle Belette, could you share with us how you feel Igor’s interpretation of your dreams ought to have read, and perhaps how you see your dreams yourself?
There is an element with therapists, that they are usually hung up on one school of therapy, e.g. Freudian, Jungian… Therefore, that leads them down one particular route… Could that be at the root of his thoughts, and your disappointment in his dreams diagnosis? Love to you, lovely Belette x
La Belette Blonde Vénitienne.
I’m not sure why Venetians have strawberry blond hair, but I think it sounds even more exotic this way!
Bad Igor! How could he be so far off???
I’ll bet the strawberry blonde looks merveilleuse! Less contrast with the gray roots too.
Ack, although I love my coffee, that’s too much caffeine. I’d be a hypoglycemic mess in no time.
Hi, this is off topic but in a passed post you said lily had greenies. People have had problems with their dogs choking or getting them stuck in their intestines and needing surgery to remove them. Our one poodle had one stuck in the back of her throat… Very scarey! Google them and see what you think. I worry! D
I SO wish you were a photo-poster. I’m dying to see the strawberry blonde weasel …
Désolée mais petites chéries but the correct term is “une belette blonde vénitienne” Doesn’t this sound so much more exotic than fraise anyway because fraise is also a word for the bit on the end of a drill, including the dentist’s drill and although I do not know you, you sound far too much of a class act to be associated with such a thing.
And now that I have blinded you with my frog savvy, I will disappear back to lurkdom. Ribbit, ribbit, ribbit.
Au revoir
Curses, Andromeda reached you while I was still untangling my fingers from the keys. Now I’m frog savvy with egg on my face. Par for the course, really.
Belette: Igor’s misinterpretation doesn’t matter. What matters is how you felt when you woke up.
Imogen:
1. I wish that he had done it one purpose. Igor is brilliant but ( hubris alert) I think I am better at dream interpretation than he is.
2. Thank you.
3. I am even more excited to meet you. I have no idea about colours that work with my less high contrast hair.
4. I drink nearly a pot of coffee in a day so it takes a real jolt of caffeine to affect me.
5. I have neve seen so many ugly shoes all in one place.
Julianne: I think what made it worse is I had been waiting all week. I couldn’t wait to hear what he said. I was sure it was huge and then I got that bit of nothing. I was so disappointed.
Your cream eye shadow sounds intriguing. I never try them as I am sure they don’t stick and they will fade. It seems I was wrong. Next time I am at the BB counter I am going to check it out.
The before picture I can’t manage. But, I might be able to get a picture of just the colout of my hair now. I’ll see what I can do.
I know a lot of people who swear by that place. I can never find anything.
Penny: I have good insurance so I get a lot back( I think I end up paying about $50 a session) but still I was fuming mad. He, however, had no idea at my annoyance.
I had no negative side effects from the Rockstar. Well, that isn’t entirely true as I find I am craving another one this a.m.. That feeling of energy is addictive.
A Woman Of No Importance:Thanks for asking! I think that the divorce dream is symbolic of a shift in my consciousness in which my introjected mother no longer has the malignant impact she has long had. ANd, that I am developing a more positive internal mother who no longer will align with the misogyny and criticism of my father. I, as in the dream, am moving out of that childhood home and things in my psyche are “moving” in a positive way.
The Obama dream, I think, is about uniting with hope. Obama, for me, is about hope and change and that I am his “lover” means that I am really connected in a profound way to change, hope and something entirely new.
Igor is a post-Freudian, i.e. a Kleinian/Object Relations/Bionian/Existentialist. I have done over a decade of Jungian work before him and I learned to analyze my own dreams from that perspective and I truly think I do a better job than he does on dreams. But, other than dreams I think he is brilliant.
Andromeda: Ooh-la-lovely!!! La Belette Blonde Vénitienne sounds terribly glamerous. Merci!!
Deja Pseu: Thank you! He just didn’t get it.
As soon as she did the full head of highlights and we hadn’t even done the roots/base colour yet I could no longer see the white roots. It is miraculous.
It is a whole lot of caffeine.
dewy23: Thank you for the warning. I will look into this. That is really scary. I would hate to give her anything that could hurt her.
Just the other day I got the bright idea to give her salmon to prevent any skin problems and it turns out salmon can create a toxicity for dogs that doesn’t occur in humans. But, from what I hear, Omega 3 fish oil is fine. However, I will do more research before I give her any.
Sal: You are sweet. I wish I was half as photogenic as you.:-)
kapgaf: Merci!!!”une belette blonde vénitienne” sounds so much more elegant and chic than a drill bit or even a strawberry.
Dear, Kapgaf, now that I have met frog savvy and funny you I beg you not to go back into lurkdom. It is a delight to meet such a wise froggy. I hope to see you here again soon.
p.s. Egg is really good for the complection.;-)
Tessa: I know these dreams indicate growth and change. Your right, his interpretation doesn’t change that.
You are the Queen of your dreams, baby. Igor is just a court jester. Never forget it. BTW, that was a wonderful, liberating dream about your parentsm, IMHO.
Just goes to show that sometimes a dream is just a collection of random, unprocessed crap that means nothing. I often dream, when I remember them, of zombies and Paris. Am I afraid of French undead?
Next time you make out with Obama, tell him to stop covering up for Chimpy’s torture train. Thanks.
Oh, hey, you’ve been tagged even though I know you won’t do it.
La Framéricaine: I wanted to go all Henry the VIII on him yesterday.
Thank you, Both dream seem really hopeful and seem to indicate big change.
Randal: Now, are you saying that my BIG dream meant nothing cause that is just crazy talk.;-) I can get you in with Igor at 4:00 today. He has big theories on your undead Paris dream.
I will not waste my precious time making out with the big O to talk about real issues. What are you thinking?;-)
Tell me what to do on the tag and I will to do it. You activated the “I’ll show you” part of my psyche. But I am guessing you know that.
Wow…Igor must really be off today. Did you tell him his misinterpretation pissed you off? Maybe – THAT is what he was going for…probably not…just a thought.
Now – I am curious about the Rockstar energy drink…if it is without all that sugar.
Alison: He was way off and I don’t think he would admit that and that pisses me off too. I think my pissiness started last week when there was a truck alarm going off last week and it was going on really loud for almost 10 minutes. It was so loud we couldn’t speak and he didn’t bother to shut the fricking window and then yesterday his ridiculous interpretation.
No sugar at all in the zero carb Rockstar and it doesn’t taste like crap which is highly unusual for energ drinks.
La belette, I’m glad you were angry with Igor. This is a good development in your relationship with him – I’m not sure why, but like to think it’s because you can figure things out for yourself better than he can.
And $200 for a lousy dream interpretation? Pah!
I’m sure you’re looking fabulous with your new cosmetics and strawberry blonde do. Shame you couldn’t find your dream shoes.
Have a good weekend x
notSupermum: I do think it is an important step and yet I feel like he will love talking about him too much and it will become all about him( i.e., he will become my mother).
I saw my dream shoes when shopping with Deja PSeu and they were $560. Unhappily, I had to leave those shoes at the store and continue to dream of them.
Hope you have a lovely weekend too.
Oh no cross with Igor – there is a reason for all this – his views, and your being cross. I’m very intriged but have no conclusions …yet…!
And I took pic of 4 of the 5 westies so I will send. Teh fith one Harvey was not at home that week as on of the 4 gals was on heat!! No humping at their house!
Film Upstart: I hope you come to conclusions soon. I am really annoyed with him and yet there is another part of me that wants to schedule a session before next Thursday so I can call him out.
I cannot wait to see the Westie pictures. Lily is at Mr. Louis’ right now getting beautified.
I am glad that you had the energy after the disaster with Igor to make use of the fab deal at NM. Think of all that money you will save with those points earned and, without the bad session with Igor, you might never have shopped up! xv
Strawberry blond? Intersting… La B certainly has the lovely fair complexion to rock it.
Do NOT get Miss J started on dreams… Last night in dreams, she was trying to show off to her co-workers a new & fab pair of shoes. No one would even LOOK at her. No interpretation needed. It's exactly like her workplace.
And speaking of shoes, Miss J did find a fabulous pair of Marc Jacobs grey patent peep-toes for $100, down from $400 at DSW right after Christmas. But that is it. Ever. And it took 2 hours.
Strawberry blonde sounds divine!
And so frustrating about Igor – he is probably just averse to interpreting dreams literally…
So exciting about the Lilly P dress!
Have a fab weekend, darling!
xoxox,
CC
DSW is like playing slots. Most of the time…well, 98% of the time = blech. Then you score big and it keeps you coming back. And, like slots, you never plan on going there. It’s just there. And you have time to kill. So you browse.
I can take it or leave it. But I have done well on occasion.
Lately they have crap
I second the greenie warning. They can be dangerous with smaller dogs. Also watch her if you give her those rawhide flips, they can choke on them (they cough it up, so it isn’t a horrible hazard, but it is scary to watch)
ok, I will not tell you that I purchased 2 Moschino scarves at DSW for $ 00.02. (I kept the receipt to prove it….) LOL.
Also get the Laura Mercier Mineral Blush. It is THE BOMB! Igor’s a poser!
is that the sound of la Belle letting go?
That dream is HUGE!
Mr Hammie is a great dream interpreter and he would say it meant something is over, but you forgive your father enough to want him to be happy. But then Mr Hammie would like to move in with 3 asian babes.
The Obama dream should be seen as an afirmation of your seeking good power in your life. Dreams about iconic figures are just a metaphor for the big strong god/dess in you, and it seems you are happy to be the centre of your gods attention.
Eat cheese and pasta tonight before bed and let us know how it works out.
xx
Interpreting dreams is not easy and you need the client to lead, often. My Mother and I are both therapists and we sometimes ask each other to help interpret a dream once in while, if it is particularly disturbing. There is often hidden information in our dreams that may be helpful to us. If Igor is on the wrong track, then tell him so he can move in another direction.
Do you think Igor may be experiencing some counter-transference issues?
Strawberry blonde… FUN! I still need my roots done and you’ve gottat colour twice… sigh! It must mean I’m really over due and it must be time for lunch and champagne soon!
ENJOY your weekend!
Fifi
PS… HELLO LILY!!!
I’m going to agree with Igor on dream #2 just to be contrary, but I feel all silly after reading this: “how does my middle finger relate to you, Igor?”
I want to see this hair!
kiehl’s micro-dermabrasion is genius!
Have only just found your blog…late starter that I am. Love it. So, when you see a therapist, at what point do you decide that you don’t need to see them anymore? Surely when you can interpret your dreams better than they can? He sounds only slightly annoying – I hope you’ve had better discussions in the past.
Btw – it’s La Belette blond vénitien…
x
vicki: I may not feel better but I look better.;-)
Miss Janey: It is a big change and so far I am liking it.
Perhaps Miss Janey should kick her coworkers with her gorgeous new shoes?;-) That’ll tech em to ignore her.
I am happy to hear you had DSW luck. Somepeople have it and some don’t. I don’t.
Couture Carrie: I feel especially springy with my new hair.
I do think it is a symbolic dream but he just is getting the symbols wrong.
I hope the Lilly P dress looks as good on me as it does on the model. Well, almost as good.
Hope you have a lovely and a couture filled weekend,
xo
Hollarback: I couldn’t agree more with your DSW/slots parallel. I am lucky at love an unlucky at DSW.
I have never in my life seen so many ugly shoes at one place.
What kind of chewy treats do you recommend? She loves greenies, pigs ears and rawhide bones. What do you recommend?
Susand: I knew someone was going to have that kind of DSW story. I remain unmoved. I will never go back!;-) Congrats on your GREAT buy.
Linda: I am definitley going to check out the Laura Mercier Mineral Blush. Thanks for sharing in my Igor ire but other than this one bad dream interpretation he is pretty much a genius.
Hammie: I am still attached to Igor but he is human and he makes mistakes and I am not willing to give up what I know to be true for him or anyone.
Thank you for getting how big these dreams are.
I don’t think that my psyche wants my father to be happy quite yet. I think the three Asian women are an allusion to my father’s three wives and marriages and to his name. If I told you his surname you would absolutely get it.
The Obama dream seems like a huge accomplishment and that finally have a positive and powerful masculine who can make changes in my life and that is not just external but also internal
I missed your prescription. Tonight I will try your pasta and cheese and let you know what I dream next.
Thank you Dr. Hammie!
Laura: I find it is usually easier to hep others see the meanings of my dreams than it is my own. But, there are times when the dream is so big and energetic that its significance will not be ignored and for whatever reason it felt like he just couldn’t feel the gravitas of this dream.
I wonder if from now on anytime a powerful man appears in my dream it is going to be him because that does read as a bit narcissistic to me.
It is uncomfortable to even say but it is possible that he does have some erotic counter-transference. I can say for sure that I do not.
Fifi Flowers: I envy you that you cn go that long between colour and Lily has been to the groomers 2x’s since you have see her. Look forward to lunch and champagne.
Lily sends puppy kisses.
WendyB: HIs hair looks NOTHING like Obama’s. Not even close. You can come to the waiting room with me when you are here is you want to see him.
Paul Pincus : Do you like it better than Dr. Brandt? I love Brandt but I don’t love the price. I have heard that Kiehl’s is a good substitute.
Maternal Tales: Igor is usually amazing and that is why when he is unamazing it is so annoying. I fear I am not done with him yet. I hv more work to do.
La Belette blond vénitien sounds so beautiful. I love it. It sounds like the title of a Felini film.
Lovely to meet you!!!!! Thanks for your comment.:-) Please come back.
I wonder how many women are dreaming about Barack. I used to have disturbing dreams about Bill Clinton.
La Belette- I would take your parents in your first dream to represent (ideally) nurturing aspects of yourself. I think that your emotions reflect one aspect of the symbology of the dream… your parents are divorcing. It seems the move your mother is making in your dream is healing and the move your father is making continues with old patterns (from reading what you wrote in comments). I can see that to be related to He-Weasel. I think you are trying to nurture yourself, and succeeding, and may not be feeling nurtured by the significant males in your life (including Igor).
I had a dream in which I was making out with Obama once, also!
I’ve fake pychiatried here enough for one day.
I wish you well, La Belette. It is good to come and see you. I had my blog set to private for a while and though I’m pretty sure you were on the list of those who could access it, feeds never showed up in Reader.
Oh my, that Obama make-out dream interpretation is precious! He’s gotta give you a freebie
And really, we all want to see how gorgeous you are. Please post a picture of the new hair (with face attached). Kxo
PS That drink sounds dangerous.
I guess everybody has an off day. Are you able to judge his performance at the end of a session and decide whether or not to pay him or go shopping? That would work for me.
Please post pics, strawberry blond sounds like quite a fun change!
I find most energy drinks to be quite addicting, between the caffeine amounts and the artificial sugars, so I tend to stick with coffee or tea. But that sounds like it would be a great kick on a slow day.
Never found a darn thing at DSW. Places like that tend to be overstocked with bad shoes.
Just don’t drink too much of the magic elixir!
It seems like a bit of a difficult one with Igor – it could be that he’s not the right therapist for you, or maybe he’s really good, and the anger will lead to a real breakthrough eventually in terms of making you face up to certain feelings or emotions.
Enjoy your new purchases:)And hope you had a good weekend (other than Igor)
Gotta tell you…the whole Igor interpretation thing is kinda creepy. I’m not knocking him as a therapist… I’m just saying the dream interpretation abilities are sketchy and creepy.
1. This is why I stopped therapy and just talk to my girlfriends – THEY GET IT!
2. Mr. S. says that he used to hear me mumbling “Kiehl’s” in my sleep.
3. I’d rather have a double espresso, it’s kinder.
4. Manolo’s+DSW=Do not compute
I can’t count – never could
We do not have a clue about Igor’s interpretation of the dreams, we only care about how you are feeling, and wish we could all wake up every day with smiles, but learned very early on that was not a happening thing!
Thinking of you and hoping your weekend was nicer than Igor.
tp
Wow, Igor. He should have a return policy. What ever happened to the customer always being right?
I’ve had two male therapists before, Belette. One was wonderful and one was…shall we say…not wonderful. I don’t know if I’ll ever understand what therapeutic relationships are supposed to be and what expectations are reasonable–but it’s not fun to hope for a response from someone in that position, and be so let down.
I just hope you’ll really trust your intuition on what the dreams meant for you and allow them to give you insight you need, whether he sees them that way or not.
xo.
A lot of my friends go to DSW all the time and find great beautiful bargains I however never do. I’m with you no more DSW for me either!
Lia: I am sure the big O has visited a lot of dreams. He is thesymbol for hope and change. I too had big Bill dreams and I still have a bit of a crush.
Dr. Freida: It is funny because I would say that the males in my life( including Igor have been VERY supportive and healthy as of late but many of the women in my life are making less healthy moves. I think that the inner-masculine is moving out where he is less destructive even if he is up to his old misogynistic tricks.
Obama is a great kisser. Isn’t he?;-)
It is great to see you here and on your blog. If it is not on my Google reader I forget to visit. ANd, I am sorry that means I have missed many of your posts.
Thanks for the dream analysis. Same time next week?;-)
K.Line: When he said Obama was him I wanted to laugh in his face. I love you Igor but Obama you are not.
Face is attached to my picture. You see some cheek and some forehead. There is face there.;-)
Susan : I do fear if he was up for that payment method he would have not gotten paid for that session. Unhappily he is not and so he got paid.
Kalee: Pictures are posted!:-)
I would be afraid to keep RockStar in my house. I would for sure drink one everyday if I had access to them.
I didn’t know so many bad shoes existed. I have a new motto for DSW. DSW, “Where bad shoes come to die.”;-)
pretty face: But it is so good and powerful…and addicting.;-)
Bronwyn: I do think we will get to have a session in which I get to tell him I was mad at him and I fear he will love that and that it will bring up some insight about me that I rather not know. So, I am sure it will all work out and yet it is still annoying. You know?
Lovely to see you. I am glad you are ok. You have been on my mind. Hope you had a lovely weekend.
just ducky: Igor admits it is not his strength and that being the case I might not share my big dreams with him anymore just so I am not dissapointed.
Zippy:
1. I think I might post my BIG dreams here as you all seem to get them more than he does.;-)
2. What is your “Kiehl’s” of choice?
3. I also enjoy a double and even a triple espresso. Truth be told, the Rockstar is gentler on the tummy.
4. DSW+cute shoes do not compute.
5. You are funny!:-)
thepreppyprincess: The dreams made me smile and that is all that matters. Right? Well, that and I have Lily, and a new Lilly P dress on the way to me and that He-weasel says I am glowing and that I have a lovely friend like you. All of that matters BIG time!:-)
sallymandy: In psychoanalysis, much like France, the customer is almost always wrong.;-)
I am happy to say that Igor did not take the meaningof these dreams for me. But, it would have been nice to have someone to share the joy of them with.
TopSurf: I too know lots of people who have the luck of the DSW. Like you, I can find nothing. Well, I am sure we have other luck that the DSW lucky people don’t. I hope.;-)
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A vast treasure trove, your blog…
1– In my opinion, Igor should be asking questions about your specific emotional reactions to the elements within your dreams and leaving the “ah ha“ moments for you to discover. I believe it is better to draw meaning out of you than to impose it on you. I found the book “Breakthrough Dreaming” by Gayle Delaney to present the best method for drawing personal insight from metaphor.
2– Way to pamper yourself and earn a “Junebug”. (Metallic Ruby, magnifique)
3– Never thought I’d fall for a strawberry blond weasel… but it is so
4– A magical elixir, indeed. Had I known you needed introducing, I would have, gladly. Sparingly, yes.
5– Ahem, I learned after my first visit… but I do know that hope springs eternal and stock does rotate.
David
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David:
1. That is how I am used to working with dreams. It is how I like to work. I don’t think I want to waste my time with him working on my dreams. Not his forte.
2. Ah!, you remembered the “Junebug”.
3. You are too kind.
4. You partake in the RockStar magical elixir?
5. I hope that this time I really learn my lesson.
Genius!
Dang that Igor. Should I have my guy call him and tell him how to analyze dreams? (The answer there is ‘don’t')
Hmmmm. Now if I combined that much caffeine (Rockstar) with Mr. Phentermine, I doubt I would ever sleep, much less dream. Hmmmm indeed.
Too bad Igor couldn’t give you the trade-off of the cosmetics as a refund for his shitty analysis. You might have come out ahead!